Your destination will find you when you are ready.
Sounds absurd to you?
I can understand that. After all, I thought the same thing last year. As an agile goal mentor and project manager (ScrumMaster), I accompany people to their goals. And I like to do that.
But I always find one question that really worries me: How can some people reach their goals easily, while others seem to consistently attract the biggest difficulties and obstacles that may exist on their journey?
Maybe you know people who are obviously trying, but something always comes up. Partners, the technology is not suitable, appointments, migraines.
Are “they” too stupid?
Just don’t want it?
Does “really” just lie to me that they have a purpose? … And then pay me a few hundred euros a month so I can listen to their lies in the Mastermind’s aim, instead of reinforcing each other and taking advantage of development opportunities?
No. Of course not. That makes no sense.
“They” are not at all ready for their goals.
Achieving goals is usually very easy: three ingredients are needed to determine whether you can achieve your goals or not.
3 success factors for goals
1. Knowledge as a success factor for goals
I summarize knowledge about the goal, as well as knowledge about how to get to the goal.
How well do you know your goals?
Ask yourself the following question: What exactly is my goal?
Now explain your goals as precisely as possible. Are you now 100% sure that someone from the road can use this description to see exactly when you have reached your destination?
If not? Describe your goals more specifically.
This has another advantage: The more concretely you describe your goal (visualizing), the stronger the attraction for you – or as the more esoteric of us say: The more you attract this goal into your life.
Now there is the second part of knowing the purpose:
The second part of knowing your goals
Do you already know how you can achieve your goals?
Assuming you want to run a marathon like my wife did, it would be very helpful if you are familiar with running techniques, training and nutrition theory, etc.
No! You don’t have to be an expert to run a marathon. But a little good research. If not, you will quickly and very motivatively realize that the goals you set may have requirements that are very different from what you expect and are ready to be met.
Or even worse: you only use full speed without prior knowledge blocking you and (unconsciously) risking serious consequences.
In short: how well you know about your goals largely determines the possibility of achieving them.
Knowing your goals is one way to get ready for those goals.
2. Want to be a success factor for goals
Wanting – and what I mean is true and deep hope from the heart – is one, if not the key success factor for the goal.
“Anyone who wants will find a way. If you don’t want to find a reason.” Holger Theymann (and many others)
“Want” is very dangerous. We easily lie in our pockets and fail to see how complicated everyone is in their souls.
It’s easy to say: “Of course I want to lose a few pounds and get fit!”
However, we all KNOW that our health and our life expectancy – and also our well-being – improves in a fit body.
Or, you can also ask yourself if you meditate every day and treat yourself to a break where you can relax …
In short: the mind wants to, but the flesh ….
Be honest now?
Well, numbers with desires are not so easy to ignore: You can remind yourself that we have an unconscious that is primarily designed to do 2 things: 1. Relieve our conscious mind of a repetitive task (Automation) 2. To ensure our survival.
What sounded like a dreamlike assistant showed his dark side in the changing conditions of life.
While adjusted and harmonious behavior in youth or at school might (feel) prevent life-threatening situations, as managers it is rather useless to give up on the first headwind.
Now the assistant (subconscious) has automated this behavior very well. Antennas are well trained: Once stress is ignited in a conversation, awareness already offers various options for de-escalation. Conquered quickly and diplomatically and … congratulations.
However, sometimes letting go as a manager is not an option. Sometimes you can hold an argument to achieve your goal. If you really want it!
So it is necessary to change this great automatism.
And here the rabbit is in pepper: The assistant does not leave a file record, which is precisely he is automatic. Both the right triggers, and the process begins.
Suddenly the work of the best assistant and savior of all time becomes an enemy on his way to his destination.
This is where personal work comes in and the work of coaches and mentors like me. But that’s not the topic here.
The desire question as a criterion for success is also a two-part question:
1. Do you want it? And at this point there should be more than “Yes, that would be nice …”. It’s about your deep motivation. Because to be honest: The goal that you don’t want from the heart is to waste time. Your whole life that cannot be repaired.
2. Does your subconscious also want it? Or is there a good reason or automatism against it?
Because only when you have your subconscious assistant on your side, you are ready for your goals and suddenly part of the third success factor becomes children’s play:
3. Wheelbarrow as a success factor for goals
Are you brave? I mean: do you have the courage to really begin your journey to your destination?
Because every destination, every trip has risks and costs. And if only it spent less time on a comfortable sofa and “finally relaxed”.
Often hidden behind unattainable goals are 3 enemies: 1. Cowards 2. Laziness 3. Pride
By the way, each of them likes to disguise themselves behind one of the others. Look closely if you see that you are not advancing with goals as planned, which are clearly blocking you … and who are secretly hiding behind them.
Unfortunately, to further this will go beyond the scope. Because it’s just a lot: This is an eye opener about your own personality. Especially about your shadows, which are usually well hidden. So, the opportunity to get to know and understand yourself better!
But back to the car.
So the first part of the question is: do you dare to handle your goals? Do you have courage? Or do you let your fear stand in your way?
I can also ask: Are you motivated enough?
Suppose you stand backstage at a stage entrance in front of an audience of 20,000 people, all of whom are potential buyers. The crowd is well filled and if your name floods the speakers, 20 minutes you will come for your presentation.
Now you might be able to imagine (or know someone who will apply this) that the knee can approach the consistency of warm pudding at this time. And even though there are amazing opportunities that you don’t have the courage to take a few steps on the stage and talk about your great offer. What if I mess up? What if they hate me? I can’t go up there. Impossible. I still need speaker training etc …
If a pack of wolves suddenly appears behind the stage and runs towards you with your teeth open, steps to the stage might be easy.
Questions about motivation.
The second part is: Do you have an option?
And even if courage and opportunity might not really fit together at first, I felt very coherent:
Because you also make choices through your decision. And you meet them boldly and deliberately – or not.
And we know one thing especially about people who choose not to make decisions:
Those who don’t decide will be decided. And then the circumstances, family, time, boss or system are to blame if goals are not achieved.
Analogous to the words quoted above, one can say: “Whoever dares to create a path. If you let fear overwhelm you, you will find a reason. ”
So, the circle closes and the car also determines whether you are one: ready for your destination.
Quite ready for the target.
You can say “Okay Holger” now. “Then I’m ready. I can answer yes to all three points in all aspects. What do I need now?”
Nothing Then you will be one of the lucky ones who will reach their goal in no time. Easy and joyful. Then you can cancel us here now and sit at your destination. Because the remaining paragraphs are only important for people who can NOT say “yes” to all points.
“So how do I get ready for my destination if I’m not there enough?”
Do you recognize the enemy that is blocking you? Which habits prevent you from being ready for your goals? Then change it.
But it is very important: don’t overdo it. Not all at once. Take it easy. Never all habits at once.
The automatism that we have developed for a long time is like a highway. The process goes fast there. Suddenly switching to a new path in the forest can take a little time. But it also becomes wider and more accessible every time you walk. Until one day you don’t get the idea to go the old way: New automatism is created.
The good news is: it can be done reliably in small steps. And it soon becomes a habit to recognize and eliminate one enemy after another, until the goal “comes naturally” into your life easily.
Other tips: You can invest a lot of time in personality development and training to find your enemy. They show themselves automatically when you start working on your goals.
They will ambush you on your way to your destination and surprise you, your enemies and your automatism. And you can be happy: “Another hour of training is saved to find enemies. Now I can disperse – or use them.”
Other tips: There are days when it’s not so easy to thank an emerging opponent. Then it’s good to have friends. People who help you remember your new habits and take advantage of development opportunities instead of bothering you.
For my part, I wish you much success and joy in achieving your goals. Get ready for an adventurous journey and welcome your dream destination or dream for your life.
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